For concealed carry, we have many tools that we use in a self-defense situation. Most of all, we use de-escalation—because the world is still full of hot-heads, jerks, and the occasional misunderstanding.

We all have been there: someone takes our parking spot at the grocery store or cuts us off in traffic. Some of us have been approached by someone and hassled on the street. Yelled at by some drunk. Whatever. No matter what, however, we have to keep our cool.

I’m going to keep beating this drum about avoiding situations and de-escalating those you can’t. But let me tell you why—it’s useful in many different situations, not just ones that may involve the use of your CCW. (But it’s especially important for the situations where you might need it). Not only that but it can help you avoid further confrontation.

Now, in those times that you can neither avoid the situation, nor de-escalate it, then you have to find another means. But guess what: that doesn’t always mean you have to use your weapon. Many of you know hand-to-hand self-defense. I know that sometimes you may just need to use that instead of pulling your gun.

I had a friend who was a bouncer at a local haunt—he did not carry his pistol at the time because the establishment served alcohol. One night he had a “huge” guy come in who was harassing the servers and the bar tender and from what he told me, he knew that he had to take care of this guy “before he could hurt me,” he said. Unfortunately for the guy, my friend had to break his arm instead of any other option. When the guy came back, my friend had to break his other arm (as the other was in a cast, but the guy wanted vengeance). Finally, with two broken arms, he comes back, and my friend wanted to know if he had had enough because he didn’t want to have to break either of the guys’ legs, too. The guy agreed he had enough and my friend bought his drinks for the night.

My friend may have been unable to de-escalate the first two encounters with this guy, but eventually was able to. No matter what the situation though, if you are able, de-escalate the situation first.


Have you been in a situation where de-escalation worked? Or did you have to use other means?



Hannah Staton holds a Bachelor’s of Arts in Rhetoric and Writing from the University of Arkansas – Fort Smith where she also is a Writing Tutor. She was issued her Concealed Carry License in 2016, but has grown up around firearms her whole life. She is a Contributing Editor and Copy Writer for Clinger Holsters. She is an artist, cigar enthusiast, poet, and an avid shooter. She resides in Van Buren, Arkansas with her dog, Sunday and spends as much of her free time either with her family or making art. You can find her on Instagram @hr.staton or reach her by email:

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